Star children in Borbeck: A loving place of memory is created

Die Kirchengemeinde Borbeck-Vogelheim eröffnet einen besonderen Gedenkort für „Sternenkinder“ auf dem Matthäusfriedhof.
The parish of Borbeck-Vogelheim opens up a special memorial for "star children" in the Matthäusfriedhof. (Symbolbild/MM)

Star children in Borbeck: A loving place of memory is created

In a moving ceremony, the parish of Borbeck-Vogelheim has set up a new place of burial for "star children" in the Matthäusfriedhof. These “star children” are the little souls who had to leave life during pregnancy or shortly after birth. Such losses represent an immeasurable pain for parents and remind us of how important it is to give these young souls a dignified farewell. Local compass reports that the memorial, which is now in the new resting place, by the Essen Steinmetzin Judith Sarlak from Ruhrsstein became. Their special design invites you to delete the polished areas, which sounds tones in the pitch or descending pitch.

"Do you know how much stars are?" - That is the beautiful inscription on the stele, which is supposed to donate consolation and assures the relatives that the souls of the star children and their sensations are recovered in God's love. Pastor Susanne Gutjahr-Maurer quotes a children's song and Psalm 147 to build the mourners in their difficult time. In addition, the names of the first three star children - Emma, Lisa and Noah - were captured on delicate metal stars, which are attached to a decorated tree trunk. This is intended to create a place of memory and memory for the bereaved.

a long way to the dignity of the star children

The way to this digest funeral option was long and tedious. Elke Heinen founded a group for parents of star children in Schleswig 30 years ago, since until then there was no place for these children. In the meantime, over 70 cemeteries have been created in Schleswig-Holstein that offer quiet cookies for star children. At that time, the remains of many children often had to be disposed of as clinic waste. Nordkirche emphasizes that Vesh, the association for vigorous parents and grieving siblings, helpful information and support offers for affected families.

The burials are increasingly in the light of social recognition, and since 2013 it has been legally possible to certify their star children in a civil customer, regardless of their weight. Although community burials are offered free of charge in many clinics, demand is often as challenging for the parents concerned, who have to actively ask for burial. The pain and the need to find a farewell is extremely difficult for many parents of star children.

Coping with funeral: An important process

Coping with grief after the loss of a child - be it during pregnancy or shortly after birth - is an individual process that brings with it a variety of challenges. Starenkind-Mama that grief can be processed in different phases. It is crucial that relatives and friends help the mourners in their difficult time, even if it is often difficult to talk about the loss. They also give valuable tips, such as open update or organizing a loving funeral to support the mourning process.

For siblings of deceased children, it is just as important that their grief heard and be taken seriously. The engagement in self -help groups can not only help to process one's own grief, but also to help others in similar situations. The desire to get a new child after a loss - a so -called rainbow baby - can also be part of the healing process. It shows that with grief and pain, the hope of a happy future goes hand in hand.

FAZIT: The new memory of star children in the Matthäusfriedhof is more than just a place of calm; It is an important step towards more dignity and recognition for all the little souls that had to go much too early. It shows that there is a place in the heart and in society for grief, overcoming the pain and maintaining the memories of the lost children.

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